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Oh No…I’m Getting Ideas Again

Recently, my Facebook feed has been inundated with content and videos from Upworthy, and I watch some of them.  For the most part, I realize that these are a time suck.  Maybe I get a bit of good news or get outraged over an injustice, but on the whole were they really worth my time?  Probably not.


Today was different though.  Today I saw a video that inspired me to actually go out and do something.  The video was for the Urban Innovation Exchange that started in Detroit, and discussed a SOUP project they do.  People come in, pay $5 for a bowl of soup, salad, and a vote.  Individuals from different projects come to the event to talk about their project/organization, and whoever gets the most votes at the end of the evening gets the funds raised from the event.


Random Acts of Kindness 2013

Random Acts of Kindness 2013

That started me thinking (always a dangerous idea, I know!).  After my Random Acts of Kindness 2013 , I received great feedback about how this inspired other people.  Some people did a 12 Days of Christmas theme, others just went out and did nice things for people, and others said that they wished they could do something like that but time/money/resources was an issue.  So, how could I make giving back to the community part of things that they already do?  How could you put your own spin on this Urban Innovation Exchange and SOUP project?


A pair of aces is arguably the best hand to be...

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I used to be part of a poker game when I lived in Chicago.  Each person would buy into a Texas Hold ‘Em tournament for a whopping $5 per tournament (some nights the first one ended early enough there was time for a second…or we’d had enough to drink and enough fun that we just weren’t ready to stop), and whoever won the tournament usually donated the money for food.  Yes, that’s right, no one ever really left with a dime, just the joy of winning (and I do so enjoy winning).  We showed up because it was fun, and we liked playing. (even if occasionally an individual would bet to make all their piles of chips even)

The SOUP event got me thinking about how a night like that could be turned into a mini-fundraiser.  The winner of the tournament got to pick the charity to receive the evenings winnings.  It seemed like a revelation to me, because somewhere along the line I forgot (even after the Random Acts of Kindness 2013) that giving back didn’t have to mean big bucks, supporting causes you believe in doesn’t have to feel like work, and that a lot of people worry that they don’t have enough time or enough money to make a difference.  


I may have mentioned that I hang out with some really amazing people. (Seriously though, why would you spend time with people who weren’t?)  I host a lot parties (in some form or fashion) at my house, and I almost always cook for the get together (because I just love cooking).  I always get questions like: “How can I help?” “What can I bring?” “Do you need anything?” I’m willing to bet that next time if I tell them they an bring a can of food, $5, a personal hygiene item, a get well card, a letter for military personnel stationed overseas, or even an hour of their time to donate to a good cause they’d do it in a heartbeat.

Maybe you don’t play poker or host dinner parties.  So what?  You can use this for movie nights, game nights, book clubs, quilting circles…whatever you do for fun.  Seriously, I would love to see a group of people who get together for like a Halo night write thank you letters to military personnel…how cool would that be?  Too bad I suck at Halo…any takers?  Maybe you’re planning a Sherlock watch party, and you have everybody bring stuff to make a package for a member of the homeless “network” or a Doctor Who party where everybody brings something for either mental health services (because he’s a mad man with a box) or for a children’s charity (because he can’t just sit there and watch children cry)….oh crud, here I go with theme parties again.  Can you see the possibilities?

So how do you know where to donate in your community?  Well, excellent question.  Although, I only looked briefly, when I did a search for “Tulsa Non-Profit Organizations” the first link that came up was a website Great Non-Profits that you can use to search either by city/state or by area of interest.  People can leave reviews and share experiences with different organizations too, which I love.  I haven’t actually dug in to ensure that every non-profit is on the up and up, but I do know that the ones I skimmed through for the Tulsa area were well-known, reputable organizations.

Need more ideas?  Send me what you and your friends do for fun, and I’ll come up with something!

‘Til next time,




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Random Acts of Kindness 2013 Comes to a Close

photo (9)Random Acts of Kindness 2013 is coming to an end.  I’m equally disappointed it is over and relieved to be finished.  For anyone who missed out on what I’ve been up to, check out this post.  For my birthday, I did 37 Random Acts of Kindness. (Let’s not discuss how random they actually were considering I thought them up and started planning in September.  The randomness was more for the people receiving…right?  Right!)  The whole experience was more satisfying and more work that I imagined it would be, and I wouldn’t change a thing. (Although, when you start worrying about how “random” your Random Acts of Kindness are, a) may not have had enough sleep b) gotten a bit too detail-oriented or c) a & b are equally correct)  Despite the lack of sleep and peering at all of the minutiae a little closer than necessary, I can’t wait to do this again.  I will definitely do this again.  In fact, I want to do this (on a smaller scale, thank you very much) all year…forever and ever.  At the end of this post, you can find my original list with items marked off, changed and commented upon. (Did you think I could resist a good aside?)

I learned a lot through the last few months.  Well, I already knew I had an amazing family and fantastic friends, but this just reinforced all that.  There is no way that I would have actually completed all my projects if it hadn’t been for all of the wonderful support I generously received.  They listened to the logistics…a lot, and they rolled with all the changes.  They told me I inspired them, and when I got tired and just wanted to curl up on the couch and watch Doctor Who, that kept me working.  (I still watched Doctor Who, I just worked while I did it!) For every call to check in, card colored, stitch sewn, reassurance given (and received), cookie baked, dollar hidden, card given, flower gifted, and mile spent next to me in the car, I am immeasurably grateful.  Hopefully, this was as much fun for you as it was for me.  If it wasn’t, please, please, please tell me how to make it more fun next time…because, fair warning, there will be a next time.

photo (4)I learned I make a difference.  The things that I thought were little (read: took the least work) are the ones that I saw change people’s day.  Two of the biggest were “Awesome Cards” and compact mirrors.  The cards were free from VistaPrint.com and said, “You are amazing! Have a wonderful day!”  They are a huge hit!  I had 250 of them printed, and I’m still handing them out everywhere I go.  I’ve lost count of the number of people who told me that I absolutely made their day, just by handing them a card.  Some of them even had tears in their eyes as they said it.  Some of them hugged me and told me they wanted to pass it on to other people. (I gave them a handful of cards to pass on.)  Other’s told me they wanted to keep it as a reminder.  People were showing them off to their co-workers and friends, and still others were confused.  Everyone was smiling.  I really liked being sneaky, so I would hand it to them face down and just walk away.  Then I’d stand out of sight to watch their faces as they read the cards.  It was…awesome.

photo (5)I learned it only takes one person to begin.  My list of things mostly went out to help members of my community, but my story went a lot farther.  All of you amazing readers of I Love Geekology 101, my family, friends, co-workers, former co-workers, and lots of others heard or read about what I was doing.  My friend, Jim Stovall wrote a “Winner’s Wisdom” column about my Random Acts of Kindness project that went out to all his subscribers.  That is millions of people who in turn email that column to friends each week, post it in their community and organization’s newsletters and share his inspirational words.  Some of those people found their way back to me to let me know that I inspired them to go out and do their own Random Acts of Kindness, so it grows.  There were people at every turn these last few days that told me they were going to pass this on to someone else, and were telling me their own stories about Acts of Kindness they do for people too.  I’m going to pass on something from Doctor Who here. (Are you really surprised?  I didn’t think so.) The Doctor said that in all of his years of traveling that he never met an unimportant person.  I may have said I believed it before, but I think I really do now.

I learned that you can order stuff by the case at Dollar Tree online.  I had mirrors that I passed out with a note inside that said, “You’re beautiful just the way you are.”  At the mall, I passed them out to women I came across.  People were really confused until I told them that I was giving away presents for my birthday.  They were still confused, but at least they would take the mirrors after that.  Lots of people told me, that was a new twist on things and “God bless you”.   A couple of women told me they really needed a new mirror, and this was perfect.  I got a lot of smiles and “Happy Birthday” wishes and thank you’s too.  Someone even told me that I made their week by giving them the mirror.  My friend told me that it took all of about three minutes to give away 36 mirrors. (there were only 36 in a case!)  I was kind of sad when I ran out, because I was having too much fun!

I learned that some men are a little weirded out when a woman they don’t know hands them a flower, but they’ll still take it.  I had 40 carnations that I gave away at a local park on Veteran’s Day.  Lots of families, joggers, and people just enjoying the weather were out in the park that day.  At first, I was a little worried about giving stuff to kids.  I didn’t want to freak out any parents. (Strangers giving kids stuff at a park?  Hmmm…)  Then I was tempted to find some more men I could weird out by handing them a flower. (It was funny, come on!) After a little debate between the angel and the devil on my shoulders, I just gave flowers to everyone.  If they were kids, I made sure that parents were always right there, and I handed them to the parents first and then the kids.  Everyone smiled, and I loved it.

I learned that fire fighters love homemade cookies. (This wasn’t surprising.  Who doesn’t love homemade cookies?) The boxes decorated with “Thank You” messages were filled with an entire batch each of chocolate chip, oatmeal raisin, and peanut butter cookies.  One gentleman rubbed his hands together in glee when I told them that there were peanut butter cookies included in the package, and it got us an invitation to breakfast at the fire house.  Unfortunately, I had to decline.  There was a lot of stuff on this list!  I may have to come back by and take them up on the offer another time though.  Breakfast looked and smelled really good!  That thing you hear about fire fighters being able to cook?  After seeing (and smelling) that breakfast, I believe it.  They seemed genuinely grateful and touched that I wanted to do something to thank them for their service.

I learned that Barnes & Noble is pretty crowded on a Saturday afternoon, so it makes it harder to hide money in the books.  It doesn’t make it less fun though.  All good stories need a good soundtrack, parts of this one include the Mission Impossible theme.  (It is required when sneakiness is involved.)  Two of my friends and I stuck $1 and a note inside 30 books in the store.  I gave each of them $10 and 10 notes and told them to find their favorite books.  It didn’t matter what they were.  I was only a little worried about overlap, and we managed to make sure that didn’t happen.  Other than the parts that required the Mission Impossible theme, my favorite part was comparing the lists of books we choose.  It was hard for me to only pick 10 books that deserved the honor of giving their eventual recipient a little gift.  I had to look at a lot of books to choose…that means that I forgot one of the books I put money in.  Oh well, all of the ones that made it to the “consideration” list were well deserving.  I also learned I should write stuff like that down at the time…next time!

photo (6)I learned that it doesn’t have to be perfect.  Handmade quilt=imperfections (that’s where the love hides, I think).  Attempt to deliver get well cards to kids, and get denied access to the floors because you’re not there to see a specific person?  That’s cool, and I’m thankful for all the effort to keep the children safe! Contact Child Life and give them the cards to deliver.  Three days not quite enough time to complete all 37 acts?  Well it is an ambitious project.  Just keep going!  A case of mirrors at Dollar Tree is 36 not 37?  Good grief, girl, just roll with it!  Police station closed? Am I supposed to be disappointed about going to meet more firemen?  Nope!  Bring the police cookies later. (Heck, there’s one officer I’ve been supplying with cookies for years!) The point is, the specifics don’t matter as much as the deed.  I need to take a step back, and look at the big picture sometimes.  This big picture is really beautiful!

Random Acts of Kindness 2013 List

1.  Leave zip bag full of change taped to a vending machine in a hospital with a note.  Since I couldn’t get into the Children’s Hospital on my trip, this didn’t happen.  I went by the Cancer Ward instead on my way home from work one day.
photo (2)2.  Bake cookies for my neighbors who are always cool and do sweet things (like “practice” edging on my driveway and sidewalk) I made them a set of coasters instead of cookies. (Last time they did something I made them a pie.  I had to change things up a bit!)
photo (8)3.  Send care packages for 37 soldiers, include thank you notes!Draw and color Thank You notes, Write a Thank you letter.  Keep it to one page!
Choose units from www.anysoldier.com (has all military branches)(This has to get doled out a little at a time.  I can only get 2 addresses a day, and I need 4 to get to 37, so…still working on it!)
4.  Visit the nursing home to talk to residents, especially ones who don’t get visitors.  My sister actually works at a local nursing home, so she’s going to help me set something up. (read: help me remember to come visit, since I ran out of time!)
5.      Make a quilt for family and children’s services
6.  Pick up the bill for someone else’s lunch/breakfast/coffee 
7.  Give a gift card to the mail delivery person
8.      Donate a bag of dog food to a local animal shelter. G.I. Wishes got the dog food instead of the shelter…it fits!
photo9.      Make 37 get well cards for children in the hospital and deliver them.  Well, I’m still working on delivery.  For security purposes, you can’t get on a floor in Children’s Hospital without having a specific person to visit, and I am completely on board with that!  They have an organization, Child Life, that does things like this for the kids who are staying at the hospital that I have contacted about delivering my cards for me.
10.  Give a gift card to a local restaurant to a homeless person for a meal
11.  Create and give out cards to strangers with happy, uplifting things on them
12.  Buy flowers or balloons and hand them out one at a time to people who could use a smile
13.  Put money in a parking meter for someone else
14.  Leave a treat on the desk for each of my co-workers.  This is something that I’m still working on as well.  My team is out of the office this week, so I get a bit of a cushion!
15.  Deliver goodies to the local fire station
16.  Deliver goodies to the police station in the neighborhood.  My police station is closed on weekends and all holidays, so their cookies this time went to another fire station.  However, I haven’t forgotten about them!  They will get a treat.  It will just have to come later.
photo (7)17.  Leave laundry soap and quarters at the laundromat
18.  Let someone cut in line at the store
19.  Hold the door open for people
20.  Smile at everyone!
21.  Give compliments
22.  Cook a meal for someone else.  Taking my friends out for a meal counts, right?
23.  Mail notes to friends and family just to tell them how much you love them.  Shhh!  Don’t tell them!  The mail hasn’t arrived yet.
24.  Clean out closets and make a donation
photo (3)25.  Donate to the local food bank
26.  Give compact mirrors with a note that says “you are beautiful, just the way you are” inside
27.  Leave $ or a note inside a book/s at a book store
28.  Do something kind for a friend or family member (cook a meal, mow the lawn, rake the leaves…) I helped my niece study so she could pass the written exam for her learner’s permit.
29.  Go to the local college and leave coupons/money/gift cards in dorm mailboxes for students
30.  Send a note/email/FB message to a friend you haven’t talked to in a long time.
31.  Collect and return carts at the grocery store.  I replaced this with baking for a charity fundraiser.  Lemon Rosemary Scones.  Yum!

32.  Give/send someone flowers This got replaced with more baking!  Chocolate Cupcakes with salted caramel buttercream frosting.  They went to the United Way fundraising bake sale.  So good that I made them again as a congratulations celebration when my niece passed her test to receive her learner’s permit.

33.  Carry someone’s groceries…this didn’t work.  I was turned down.  Any ideas on something else I can do this month?

34.  Help someone with their yard-work/housework.  I helped with a friend’s daughter’s homework for her college Psychology class instead.

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35.  Hide dollars at the dollar store

Give away three copies of Discovering Joye by Jim Stovall.  This replaces coloring pages and crayons in the doctor’s office.
37.   Give a very generous tip

‘Til next time,


T-Six Days and Counting…Random Acts of Kindness 2013 Countdown

T-six days and counting….


Well, folks, I’m on my last few days of Random Acts of Kindness 2013.  That means that you only have a few days left for you to submit your own kind acts in the Be Kind…Win Stuff contest.  Don’t forget to enter to win an autographed copy of Jim Stovall’s Discovering Joye!  Thank you to everyone who has already submitted.  I love reading about the amazing things that you’ve done for other people.






A row of shopping carts.

A row of shopping carts. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)


This is not as detailed as the last update, but y’all deserve a little something here, all the cards are drawn and colored (I’m kind of sad.  I like coloring!),quilts are finished, donations gathered and pickup schedule, notes have been written (mostly), and a case of mirrors is on its way to me (Dollar Tree lets you order online! I had no idea.  You learn something new everyday.)…lots of stuff has been done for the big day (which is planned for November 9th, by the way)  Friends and family have volunteered (or been volunteered) for…stuff.  Obviously, not everything can get done in one fell swoop, but lots of it will.  That means lots of things are wrapping up and coming together.  There’s still work to be done, but time is on my side (kind of, sort of…maybe?)  Cookies will be baked and a copy shop will be visited…as well as the bank…and…okay, there’s still a lot of work to be done!  Some things got changed a little bit, others got switched out…ideas get better as they percolate.

Plus, what if it rains.  Do you want to gather shopping carts in the rain?  Me either.  Also, I’ve been checking out parking lots, and employees do a great job of gathering up those carts.  That made me worry that I wouldn’t find enough carts to gather up, and then I wouldn’t have 37 things on my list anymore.  Gathering a singular shopping cart would feel too much like cheating…or just like shopping and returning your own cart.  Sometimes, I’m a little…detail oriented.  So, yeah, I’ve got a couple of things sandbagged.  What can I say? (Yep, just realized I sandbagged Random Acts of Kindness…not that making a list months in advance and planning it all out doesn’t take some of the “randomness” out of the whole project…right!  Random is not the point.  Kindness is the point.)

Don’t worry, one of the volunteers is going to take a picture(s) of the heap of stuff in my house waiting to go out.  People have volunteered (or been volunteered) to go with me to help with things and take pictures as things are underway. (Yes, I understand that I’ve promised you that you will not show up in any pictures.  Personally, I’m telling you these individuals are gorgeous both inside and out, and I don’t understand why there is this fear of photographs.  However, I respect the decision.)  This way you can see what’s going on.  My family and friends have been amazingly wonderful.  There’s no way that I would have made it through this and had as much fun (or with as much sanity as I started with) if it weren’t for all of you!  Thank you, thank you, thank you!


If you want to do your own Random Acts of Kindness project but you aren’t sure how to get started, people will help!  Comment or send me an email at ilovegeekology101@gmail.com.  I’m happy to give you ideas or feedback or whatever.  If you want to just check out other ideas, Random Acts is a non-profit that has lots of great ideas online that you can check out.  Maybe you already have a great idea, but you can’t afford it, Random Acts might be able to help there too.

Lots of other things have happened that I’ll be posting about soon!  I promise.  Lately I’ve been a bit busy with coloring, sewing and kind act making.  Regularly scheduled posts will be back soon.  Hopefully you’re enjoying my fun videos and such in the meantime!

‘Til next time,












Can I get An Update? Random Acts of Kindness 2013

Did you sing the first part of the title?  Awesome!  That was the idea!  Now, if the line “Can I get a witness” is running through your head too, at least I know I’m not alone.  Ladies and gentlemen, it is time for an update.  Random Acts of Kindness 2013 has commenced…well, sort of.  It is a lot of work to get ready to do all this stuff between November 1st and November 11th.  Right!

Catching everyone up…



For my 37th birthday, I’m doing 37 Random Acts of Kindness.  I made a list back in September of things I wanted to do, and I shared it here.  The response I got was amazing!  So many people have offered to help and told me stories about things that they do all the time.  I want to hear your story too!  Jim Stovall has donated an autographed copy of Discovering Joye that I’m giving away in my Be Kind…Win Stuff contest.  All you have to do to enter is fill out the email form with an act of kindness that you’ve done, you’re planning to do, you do all the time…you accidentally did…whatever.  On November 11th, I’ll draw from the entries and mail you an autographed copy of the book.

Have I mentioned I have a hard time accepting help sometimes?  I may be a bit stubborn independent.  The ones who love me most were worried that I’d bit off more than I could chew. (They’ve met me.  I dream big.)  They may have heard that I work full time, decided to take a couple of college level classes “just for fun”, write two blogs, and I’m planning a Halloween(ish) party, and Doctor Who themed birthday party in there too.  There’s all the other everyday life stuff going on too.  (Have I mentioned I don’t do downtime well?)  As proud as I am that I have learned to do some advance tactical work (stop laughing, you know who I’m talking to!).  I was pretty adamant that I wanted to do all the work for this little (big) project all on my lonesome.  My planning phase for this did start in Mid-September after all….right about the time I realized that I had committed to do a lot of stuff by hand.  Have you ever drawn nearly 80 cards?  I hadn’t.  However, I have now! (well, almost 80…there’s some drawing and coloring left to do this week.)  My friends and family kept reaching out and offering to help though, and I finally realized a few of things.

1) Why should I be selfish with all the fun?  These are acts of kindness and if they want to help, I should let them share in doing nice things for people, and the work isn’t hard work (It is coloring!  Maybe some baking, and my mom just donated a quilt top so I have two quilts to donate to Family & Children’s Services!)  My friends and family love this stuff!

2) This is a lot of work, and while I would feel a great sense of accomplishment if I did it on my own…I would also be…well, I wouldn’t be fun to be around while I was doing the work.  The chances of me keeping my cool…let’s just say, I didn’t like those odds.  That kind of negates doing nice things for strangers if you aren’t nice to the people you care about.

3) Work, even fun work, is even more fun when you’re doing it with fun people.  Let’s face it, I don’t spend my time with people who suck.  They’re all pretty awesome.

4) One of my New Year’s Resolutions is to accept help when I need it, and not be so stubborn independent. (I can hear the scoffing from here.)

The great news is that help has been accepted, and major progress has been made!

The road so far…(and some of you never thought I’d get a chance to use that line!)

1) Business Cards have been ordered and they have arrived! They read “You are awesome!  Have a wonderful day.”

2) The message is finished on all the “Thank You” cards for military personnel and “Get Well” cards for the kids in the Children’s Hospital.  There’s still some pictures to be drawn and some coloring to be done.  Thank you friend! (They are all beautiful!  Stop worrying!)  We have a system.  I ink.  She colors.  It works.

3) Laundry detergent and fabric softener purchased to go in the laundromat.

4) Quarters parceled for laundromat and vending machines.  The rest of my loose change has been rolled and will be exchanged for more quarters this week. Thank you other friend!  The coin rolling/Supernatural watching marathon was awesome!  Another conversion (sorry there’s another TV show you can’t watch before bed…or not.) has been made and I discovered that I suck at rolling coin now. (Two years out of the banking industry…or an inability to multi-task when good looking men are on television.)

5) Two batches of homemade chocolate chip cookie dough made, scooped and frozen. There is still dough to be made (peanut butter and oatmeal raisin) and of course everything has to be baked just before delivery to firemen, policemen, and neighbors. (Just say “NO” to stale cookies!) Thank you for scooping while I cleaned the kitchen…next time we can switch?  (Just joking!)

6) Be Kind…Win Stuff contest to give away Discovering Joye…well, you already know that’s up. Thank you to everyone who has already written in.  I love the responses.  Please keep writing!

Jessica's iPhone Pictures 3.25.13 533There is still quite a bit to finish up before I get to go out and give all of this stuff away, but “with a little help from my friends” I’m not worried or stressed.  I’m just having fun…now, I just need to buy a new quilting hoop.  I just remembered that my loving dog ate mine.  He looks so innocent too up there at the top of the page!  Trust me, looks can sometimes be deceiving.
Inspired to do something, but need some help getting there?  One of the things that inspired me was Random Acts, a non-profit that I heard about on a Nerdist podcast with Misha Collins of Supernatural.

Random Acts is a non-profit organization that’s aiming to conquer the world, one random act of kindness at a time. We’re dedicated to funding and inspiring acts of kindness around the world. (www.therandomact.org)


On their site they’ve got videos to inspire you, they’ll create promotional material to help you out, and they can even help fund your project.  There’s always something to be said for dreaming big!

“You mustn’t be afraid to dream a little bigger, darling.” Inception 

‘Til next time,